20 March 2012

Trolling and cyber bullying

Hey guys,

Today I won't talk about beauty and the like but about something that most of you will already have come across: cyber bullying and trolling. I am sure you are familiar with these terms. The internet is full of it and every day there are new victims. Maybe you have been a victim already (I hope not) or maybe you have even trolled or bullied someone online (I really hope my readers don't do that).

But what exactly ARE cyper bullying and trolling ? You can find everything in the internet and therefore there will for sure be a definition. Now what does Wikipedia, most likely the main source of knowledge for a lot of people, say about this?

Cyberbullying is the use of the Internet and related technologies to harm other people, in a deliberate, repeated, and hostile manner

A troll is someone who posts inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.The noun troll may refer to the provocative message itself, as in: "That was an excellent troll you posted".

Long story short and in my own words: both stands for people hiding behind their screen and keyboard, provoking, hurting and scaring people in the internet.

Just that it does not really stay there. Victims often don't know how to handle these situations. They get depressive, sick, scared, they might hurt or even kill themselves.

Now I am no therapist, I am only a girl who wants to put a stop to this but doesn't know where to start. It happens everywhere, after all...all the time. It is not a new phenomenon either. Both exists since the internet (how we know it) exists. And unless politicians, authorities, social network sites and IT specialists grow some balls and work together it will keep existing.  

But there are ways to protect yourself, for example
  •  never give out personal details in the internet
  •  keep your social network sites as locked as possible. Facebook for example has multiple ways to do so. You can hide your profile, only give certain people access to your wall and change your user name to something that is not connected to you
  • if you happen to become a victim of trolling, make screenshots before you delete the posts and keep them, keep them, KEEP THEM. Make sure to have as many details as possible on these screenshots, like the post itself, username of the person posting, time, date and platform.
  • do NOT stay quiet. Means: talk to someone you can trust. That can be your parents, partner, siblings, teacher, trainers, you name it. 
  • don't hesitate to go to the police. Don't worry about people thinking you are overreacting. If you feel seriously hurt or scared it is your right to seek help
  • don't react to offensive posts. It will only motivate them to keep going. (don't feed the troll)

What you can do for others:

  • be careful what you write in the internet, don't be offensive, word feedback carefully
  • report offensive posts to the moderators
  • if you know someone who is a victim to cyber bullying or trolling, be supportive. That person might need a good friend
  • don't put yourself in danger but be aware of what is going on around you (especially outside the internet)

I know these are only a few things and there is probably much more you can do to protect yourself I can simply not think of at the moment. But never forget: you are not alone !

Before I finish this post and click on "send" I would like to share a documentary I came across and think it is a really good one. You will need about an hour to watch it but trust me, it's worth it.

If you have any comments or ideas you would like to share, please do so. And all those trolls out there: don't even bother trolling here, it's not worth it.

The anti-social network, a documentary on bbc.co.uk

Stay strong and keep smiling,


07 March 2012

Hair care and the shocking truth

 Howdy all,

"My hair is very important to me." I guess a lot of people feel like that. Or maybe let's say "It is very important to me that my hair looks nice". So we brush, blow dry, curl or dye it although it is actually damaging for our hair.

Now, my hair is very important to me but I am no saint. I do all these damaging things to it as well but I try to keep it rare. I am careful when I blow dry it and keep my (just slightly warm) blow dryer at a distance. I use my straightener maybe once a month and always use heat protection. I don't dye my hair anymore (ok within the last 24 months I got highlights once). And I use saloon products when it comes to shampoos and conditioners. I really try to keep my hair healthy without missing out on all the nice things you can do with it.. But even though I am very careful I suffer from dry hair that got more and more damaged over the time. I kept cutting off lengths but it didn't get better. My hair seemed to struggle more and more although I used all those fancy saloon products and did olive oil hair masks every now and then.

So one day not too long ago I went out to buy a hair mask that should end all the struggle and moisturize my hair. A few hours later I returned, singing and listening to music on my mp3 player to lock out my bank account's angry voice for having spent so much money on a tube of...well...cream...basically. But the key point for me was, that I in fact HAD purchased something I really hoped would be a good solution.

Long story short, after just using that hair mask once my hair was shiny and felt perfectly healthy -which got me suspicious. How could my dry and damaged hair look like this within just one hour ?

I suppose most of you will know the answer. So did I, kind of..The key word here was - of course - silicons.

Now, silicons aren't automatically evil. In fact they are used in all sorts of cosmetics and usually don't cause problems like allergic reactions. They make your hair and skin feel and look nice, soft and healthy. However, as much as they lock in the moisture that is already in hair or skin, as much they can lock out all the good ingredients of your hair and skin care products. Silicons can have the same result as if wrapping your hair or skin in plastic film. Nothing can get out, nothing can get in and even though the plastic film looks smooth and shiny, the hair or skin covered by it can "starve".

But here are the good news. If you don't want this to happen you could - for example - invest in shampoos that are free of silicons. You should remove all the silicons from your hair first though. You can do that by either using a special shampoo dedicated to that very purpose (ask for a shampoo to remove build-ups) or you check your kitchen for an essential part in home-made build-up removers: baking soda.

What you will need:

  • Baking soda
  • Silicon free shampoo
  • Warm water
  • A small bottle or similar (you will have to close it)
Take your bottle and mix your baking soda and shampoo in equal parts (i.e. 2 table spoons of baking soda and 2 table spoons of shampoo). Add warm water. Close the bottle and shake well. VoilĂ , your home made build-up remover is ready to use.

Make sure to massage it into the lengths of your hair but try to avoid the scalp. It won't kill you but it can leave your scalp pretty dry. (Also do not - and I repeat this - do not use it too often. Not more than maybe once a month as it can be pretty tough for your hair. If you do not use silicon containing products you should not need to use it at all.)

Don't forget to use a silicon free hydrating mask on your hair once you washed out the shampoo. Alternatively (and easier to get) use a silicon free conditioner and leave it in your hair for quite a long time. I left mine in for an hour or so but of course less should be alright. Maybe 15 minutes ?

After this treatment your hair can look horrible. That is because you removed the silicons that held them together. Keep using hydrating masks and give them time to adapt.

If you do not want to use silicon free shampoos for whatever reasons but want to take good care of your hair anyway, you can check the ingredients of your desired hair care products. Silicons usually have the following endings: -cone, -conol and -oxane. You can also categorize them into three groups:

Water soluble: Trideceth-12, Dimethicone Copolyo, Dimethicone copolyol/HWP, Hydroxypropyl, Polysiloxane, Lauryl methicone copolyol

Poorly water soluble: Amodimethicone, Behenoxy Dimethicone, Stearoxy Dimethicone

Water-insoluble: Cetearyl methicone, Cetyl Dimethicone, Cyclomethicone, Cyclopentasiloxane, Dimethicone, Dimethiconol, Stearyl Dimethicone, Trimethylsilylamodimethicone 

You will want to avoid the water-insoluble silicons. Just imagine you use a shampoo containing them every day... You can imagine how much "plastic" you "wrap" around your hair in just one month.

Also their position in the list of ingredients will give you an indicator of the amount of silicon used in a product. If an ingredient is quite at the beginning of the list it means there is a lot of it in the product. Therefore, the further towards the end it is, the better.

Now, what did I do with my poor damaged hair ? I used baking soda shampoo, a silicon free hair mask and will continue treating it with organic shampoos, conditioners and natural hair masks. I will try to film a few tutorials to keep you up to date and informed :)

If you have stories or experiences you would like to share, please do so :)

So long,


04 March 2012

Welcome to my world

Howdy Cowgirls !

After weeks of planning and preparing I finally get to write my very first blog entry. I am quite excited about this project. There is so much I want to do, I even had to write down all my ideas because I came up with so many.

I like fashion and make-up (although I wouldn't call myself a make-up Guru). Since I want to share with you guys as much as I can I hope you are looking forward to DIY beauty and fashion as well as to "my favourite XYZ" clips and the like.
I actually  filmed my first clip already... just to find out that the quality was crap. So I ended up doing some research and buying a new camera.

Let's hope for the best now :)